What to share
- Shared boundaries and content limits.
- A plain pause procedure anyone can use.
- The condition for resuming or changing direction.
- A neutral path for revisiting shared wording.
What stays outside the shared wording
Record the shared procedure. Leave each person’s reason private.
- Do not ask for a name, diagnosis, history, or explanation.
- Do not promise anonymity the agreement cannot guarantee.
- Use a separate path for private disclosures when the group needs one.
An empty field does not mean “no boundaries.” It means “Not discussed yet.” It is not permission or a completed answer.
Read the wording aloud before saving
Can everyone follow it without private context?
If it points to an unnamed person or hidden reason, rewrite it as an observable table procedure.
Try this wording pattern in the topic preview or compare the four topics.